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  What exactly defines a fuck buddy? I’d call it someone that you only ever see with the intention of sleeping with. You don’t hang out outside of the bedroom and you don’t call each other up the next day to say you had a good time, unless you’re calling for another session. It’s not a friends-with-benefits situation, it’s somebody that you have in your life purely to satisfy your sexual needs.

I’m the kind of person whose current ideal relationship is that of a fuck buddy. I can’t really stay in a stable relationship but I have a very healthy sex drive and I have no problem holding onto someone’s number knowing that I can call them up whenever I want for some good old fashioned fucking. I’m not really into one-night-stands (or at least not frequently) because I like to know for certain that the person I’m sleeping with is not a lunatic.

But is there more to a fuck buddy than the desire to have sex with each other? It sounds simple and too good to be true and the truth is, it can be sometimes, although it shouldn’t have to be. But it can be a tricky situation if it’s not done right. Everybody has their own set of rules and opinions so I thought I would share some things that have worked for me and open up the floor to other people’s suggestions. Feel free to ask one another to explain why they have a certain rule and of course you are entitled to disagree with them.

It’s not like I’m an expert in the field, far from it, but having had numerous fuck buddies over the years, with a wide variety of ages, I have put together my own set of simple rules which I live by when entering and trying to maintain a purely sexual relationship with another person.

So here they are:

Both parties must have respect for each other; it’s that simple. No respect, no sex.

Both parties must understand the situation. You both need to know that what you have is purely physical and nothing more will ever develop out of it. If you aren’t sure or feel the other person may not be certain about the situation then you must ask or explain the circumstances.

There should be a mutual physical/sexual chemistry or attraction to one another. If you can’t bear to look at the person sober or they’re not wild enough for you in bed then there is no point in continuing a relationship based on sex with them.

You must both be able to communicate what you want, when you want it, and how you want it. Remember, you are both spending time together in order to get what you want, which is satisfaction. If they aren’t sure or aren’t doing something the way you like it, then tell them how it’s done before giving up completely.

You should have few or no mutual friends. This one is very important to me. It can become a very sticky situation if you know a lot of the same people and may have to be careful in making sure that nothing is revealed to them. You shouldn’t have to worry about being found out. It’s okay to have mutual friends in a friends-with-benefits situation, but not with a fuck buddy.

Only call/text/email/message/whatever with the intention of fucking or arranging your next fuck. They need to understand that that is all there is between the two of you and that there’s nothing more to say.

This leads me to my next rule, which is: share little about your life or day except the basics. Sure, you can make some small talk asking how their day was, finding out what they do for a living or whatever, but don’t go on a rant about what a bad day you had at work, how your friend is getting married soon, blah blah blah. You are there to have sex, not to find a confidante or establish an emotional connection.

This next rule is not set in stone by any means but I find it is best if you see each other no more than once every other week. Seeing each other any more than that tends to lead to one person developing feelings for the other or the sex becoming less exciting. Although there have been a couple of occasions where it has worked seeing somebody once or twice a week, it has never lasted for very long.

NEVER under any circumstances should you spend the night at their place or let them sleepover. I don’t care how tired you/they are or how drunk, call yourself (or them) a cab and get out of there. Once the sex is over, their purpose has been met and there is no need for them to stick around. Why would you want to experience the morning after with your fuck buddy whom I’ve already said you shouldn’t be sharing much personal information with? If you want morning-after sex then tell them you’ll call in the morning and kick them out.

Always use birth control. Ladies, you better be on the pill or some other form of it. And if you aren’t exclusively fucking each other (that is, you haven’t agreed that you won’t fuck anybody else) then you should be using condoms too. Why risking getting an STD from whomever else they may or may not be sleeping with?

Play out your fantasies and try new things! With a fuck buddy, you don’t have to worry about what they think or how they may react to your strange requests. If they don’t want to try something out then either deal with it or try with someone else. The point of a fuck buddy is satisfaction, so don’t be afraid to get creative!

Another rule, which not everyone may agree with, is to not discuss anything about your fuck buddy and your escapades with your friends. Personally, I feel that a fuck buddy is a private thing and they should only be thought about when you desire sex, not while you are having coffee with your friends discussing their boyfriends or girlfriends. Although I think it is okay to share a bit of a really juicy or extremely gratifying night once in awhile!

Finally, one of the most important yet often ignored rules: once someone develops feelings for the other or another person, STOP! If you don’t end it quickly, things will get very complicated and messy, I guarantee it.

So that’s all I’ve got for now! Please do add onto this list and feel free to discuss any of the ones I’ve put up so far. If you need any further explanation, go ahead and ask! Remember, these are just my opinions, but they have always worked in o situations.

Oh and one more thing – what do you think about having daytime sex with your fuck buddy? It’s something I’ve never done before but my schedule over the next couple of weeks may call for just that and I’m not sure if it’s entirely appropriate or not. I can’t see myself going without sex for that amount of time though so I’ll just have to hope things work out! I don’t see why they shouldn’t though as long as the other rules are still followed…

Also, how do you dispose of your fuck buddies? Do you just stop calling or do you tell them the truth, whatever it may be? Or maybe you lie and say you’ve
fallen hard for someone else and are starting up a real relationship with them? I’ve never had a messy disposal, usually it has involved one of the parties moving away or a mutual falling out, but I would love to hear how some of you have gotten yourselves out of the situation.

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Urmaresc de citeva ore cursorul ce-mi pilpiie pe ecranul gol si parca vizualizez astfel propriile-mi batai ale inimii.

Un an a trecut in care nu am avut de spus nimic in acest loc numai al meu pe care-l impart si cu voi toti… Azi voi asterne frinturi de ginduri desirate si incilcite gordilian.p e r s p e c t i v e   2 0 1 3 . . .

Ploua interminabil in mintea-mi si timpul il masor prin picaturile de ploaie ce mi se preling pe fata-mi si ajung stinghere si jucause sa-mi adape buzele-mi insetate de viata si de drum.  Se deschid noi orizonturi si altele apun deja uitate, iar eu in  starea-mi caracteristica de inefabil ma strecor pe usa afara si nu indraznesc sa privesc in urma-mi la cei dragi ce ramin incremeniti in amintirea-mi cu miinile ridicate intr-un semn de drum bun si vint din pupa.  Pornesc…  Pentru a cita oara si pentru cit timp?  Nici eu nu am idee, dar asta este cea mai minunata parte a unei calaltorii in care ai o vaga idee a destinatiei, dar niciodata nu vei sti ce si pe cine vei intilni.  Intreaga- mi existenta pina acum am tot cautat ceva, pe cineva cind trebuia doar sa ma gasesc pe mine. Am ajuns sa ma iubesc. Si astfel in sfirsit sint LIBER! Liber sa ma pot concentra cu adevarat si constient asupra-mi. Persoana cea mai importanta din viata mea a fost si cea mai “persecutata” emotional prin lipsa cu desavirsire a iubirii de sine. Nou nascut si egoistic insetat de cunoastere ma reped in tot ce este nou in speranta ca setea-mi va fi macar partial potolita de aceasta nezidita inca fiica a Afroditei…   Accept provocarea cu normalitatea cu care duc la gura un pahar de White Russian.

Continuarea intr-un episod urmator dragii mei…

I never been an iPhone enthusiast but the mother company – Apple – has been one of my favourites from the beginning of my time in front of a computer back in the ‘80’s and ’90’s.  The innovative and the simplicity of their products made the Apple one of the most trusted and respected brands in the dynamic world of software and computer design. The brilliant spirit and the intelligence of the founder, Mr. Steve Jobs has been during the years a vector of how life should be lived and not be outlived by life itself.  I need to write about this because the world will never be the same and the spirit of Steve Jobs will outlive us and generations to come.  I will say without any doubt that he is like the Halley’s comet…. hopefully we will see his light again during our live time.

R.I.P Mr Jobs…

HOW TO LIVE BEFORE YOU DIE by Steve Jobs

Stau si ma intreb daca aceste zeci si sute de cauze care circula pe facebook au si o finalitate concreta in viata reala?!?

Exista o isterie “feisbuciana”  – terminologia e productie proprie cu tot cu drepturi de autor – ce ma agaseaza zilnic cu aceste chemari la cate si cate cauze.

Toata lumea sta linistita lipita de scaune la birou sau pe acasa sau pe unde mai acceseaza facebook-ul si dupa ce au invitat toata lista de prieteni sa salveze rata cu gat rosu de pe grindul Cormoranului ciufulit de berze se relaxeaza si un zambet tamp presupun ca le mijeste in coltul gurii.  Chiar cred ca au rezolvat ceva, ca au salvat lumea, caii din padurea Letea sau au reusit sa-l dea jos pe Basescu stand si dand click-uri si like-uri aiurea.

De ceva vreme ma gandesc sa termin cu facebook-ul, dar sincer la ora actuala e singura modalitate de a restabili legaturi cu oameni/ prieteni  imprastiati pe intreg mapamondul.

Pana la o noua revolutie in platforme de social media, va trebui sa “suport” agasantele invitatii la cauze fara nici o sansa de finalitate…

La buna revedere dragii mei, la buna revedere!

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Astazi 17 iunie 2011 se implinesc 101 ani de la primul zbor al unui roman cu un avion construit si pilotat de el. Discutam despre Aurel Vlaicu si al sau aparat de zbor Vlaicu I.

Biografie:

A terminat Colegiul Reformat al Liceului Calvin din Orăştie, care din 1919 încoace a fost numit “Liceul Aurel Vlaicu”, luându-şi bacalaureatul la Sibiu în 1902.

Şi-a continuat studiile inginereşti la Universitatea din Budapesta şi Ludwig-Maximilians-Universität München, în Germania, obţinându-şi diploma de inginer în 1907. După ce a lucrat ca inginer la uzinele Opel în Rüsselsheim. În 1908 se întoarce la Binţinţi unde construieşte un planor cu care efectuează un număr de zboruri în 1909. În toamna lui 1909 se mută în Bucureşti şi începe construcţia primului său avion, Vlaicu I, la Arsenalul Armatei. Avionul zboară fără modificări (lucru unic pentru începuturile aviaţiei mondiale) în iunie 1910. În anul 1911 construieşte un al doilea avion, Vlaicu II, cu care în 1912 a câştigat cinci premii memorabile (1 premiu I si 4 premii II) la mitingul aerian de la Aspern, Austria. Concursul a reunit între 23 şi 30 iunie 1912 42 piloţi din 7 ţări, dintre care 17 din Austro-Ungaria, 7 germani, 12 francezi printre care si Roland Gaross, cel mai renumit pilot al vremii, un rus, un belgian, un persan şi românul Vlaicu. Cel mai mare ziar vienez,  se exprima astfel despre zborurile lui Vlaicu: “Minunate şi curoajoase zboruri a executat românul Aurel Vlaicu, pe un aeroplan original, construit chiar de zburător, cu două elici, între care şade aviatorul. De câte ori se răsucea (vira) maşina aceasta în loc, de părea că vine peste cap, lumea răsplatea pe român cu ovaţii furtunoase, aclamându-l cu entuziasm de neînchipuit.”.

La 13 septembrie 1913, în timpul unei încercări de a traversa Munţii Carpaţi cu avionul său Vlaicu II, s-a prăbuşit în apropiere de Câmpina, se pare din cauza unui atac de cord.

În anul urmator, prietenii săi Magnani şi Silişteanu finalizează construcţia avionului Vlaicu III, şi cu ajutorul pilotului Petre Macavei, efectueaza câteva zboruri scurte. Autorităţile vremii interzic continuarea încercărilor; în toamna anului 1916, în timpul ocupaţiei germane, avionul este expediat la Berlin. A fost văzut ultima dată în anul 1940.

Multumesc prietenei mele Renatta Stepanov ce mi-a deschis ochii asupra insemnatatii acestei zile.

La Multi Aniu’ Renatta si Misu azi 17 Iunie 2011…

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De aici ma dezbrac…

Coffee….

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Mi-a atras atentia un pasaj dintr-un text scris de José de Sousa Saramago in “Caietul – Texte pentru blog: septembrie 2008-martie 2009″ si anume:

” Am de gind sa fiu, in felul meu, un stoic practic, dar indiferenta pe post de conditie a fericirii n-a avut niciodata loc in viata mea, si daca e adevarat ca ma incapatinez sa caut linistea spiritului, la fel de adevarat e si ca nu am scapat si nici nu am de gind sa scap de pasiuni. Incerc sa ma obisnuiesc fara prea mult dramatism cu ideea ca trupul nu e doar supus limitelor, ci este de asemenea, intr-un anume fel, in orice moment, deja limitat. Ce importanta are asta, totusi, daca fiecare gest, fiecare cuvant, fiecare emotie sint in stare sa nege, in orice moment, aceasta limitare? De fapt, ma simt viu, foarte viu, mai cu seama cind, dintr-un motiv sau altul, trebuie sa vorbesc despre moarte….”.

Citiri minunate si voua dragii mei si astept cu interes recomandarile voastre pe tematici similare.